In our third “quick chat” about the book The Courage to Be Disliked, Justin King and I explored a deceptively simple definition of happiness: contribution.
The authors explain that there are two ways we contribute to the world—by doing and by being. Contribution by doing is an act of service to someone else. Contribution by being happens when you simply exist as someone’s child, friend or partner; your presence alone enriches their life.
I love this perspective because it means anyone can find meaning in their life, regardless of their job title or bank account. You don’t need to be a celebrity or have a big platform to make a difference. Every small act of kindness counts, and so does allowing others to help you when they offer. Contribution is a two‑way street.
We also talked about the concept of Life’s Two Mountains. Many of us spend our time climbing the first mountain, which is about ego, legacy and personal freedom. True transcendence comes from crossing to the second mountain, where contribution and commitment matter more than status. Freedom isn’t just the ability to do whatever you want; it’s the feeling that comes from knowing you’re making an impact on others.
Of course, contribution isn’t everyone’s primary motivator. If you’re self‑aware and know that helping others doesn’t energize you, that’s okay. But for me, and for Justin, a piece feels missing when we aren’t teaching, speaking or sharing. That’s why we record these conversations and publish blog posts like this—we want our experiences to ripple out and help others.
Our discussion also touched on Tony Robbins’ six human needs. Most of us chase certainty, variety, significance and love/connection. The higher needs—growth and contribution—are where we unlock the next level. Growth expands our capacity and understanding of the world, while contribution helps us transcend ourselves and serve something greater.
If there’s a King Move here, it’s to sit down and reflect. How are you contributing to others through your actions? How are you contributing simply by being present in someone’s life? Building meaningful relationships and letting people contribute to you can create a sense of fulfillment that money can’t buy.
What role does contribution play in your happiness? Let us know in the comments below.
Listen to the full episode here, or wherever you get your podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/king-moves-ai-entrepreneur-success-lessons-business/id1724908341
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